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MESSAGE THREE
ON MARRIAGE AND SEXUALITY
March 25, 1982
The following clarifications and explanations were given to me by the
Lord today:
Under the present conditions existing on planet Earth, no true,
genuine, spiritual marriages are possible. There are several reasons why
this is so (among other things):
1. The present people on planet Earth are the result of genetic
manipulations by the so-called pseudo-creators (see “Fundamentals of
Human Spirituality”). Several millions of years ago (about 3-4 million)
people were fabricated from non-spiritual principles for only one
intention and purpose: to prove that sentient life is possible without any
spiritual principles. For that reason, everything in the present people is
geared toward opposing and eliminating anything spiritual. This is, in
most instances, an unconscious effort. However, many people dedicate
their lives to this abominable goal. This includes whole societies and
countries. In such people, this effort is conscious, although the real
motivating factors stem from the deep unconsciousness where they were
implanted by the pseudo-creators.
Principles of femininity and masculinity, in their genuine essence and
substance, are spiritual principles. Therefore, it was necessary for the
pseudo-creators to distort, pervert, mutilate and restructure their
meaning, function and manifestation in the natural degree, where such
destructive efforts are possible to actualize. Planet Earth was given to
them for this purpose. Thus, it became a stage upon which a
demonstration of the consequences and outcomes of such non-spiritual
strivings could become reality for purposes of illustration and learning.
True spiritual marriages are possible only under conditions of
complete spirituality where no distortions exist. Since such important
conditions were carefully obliterated by the pseudo-creators, together
with obliteration of any memories for these acts, no true marriages are
feasible on planet Earth so long as the experiment continues and is
permitted by the Most High.
2. By genetic manipulation, the pseudo-creators implanted the
non-spiritual pseudo-principles of pseudo-life in their pseudo-creation.
Thus, they deprived human life of the most important principle which
makes humans true humans: true spirituality. For that reason, present
“humans” on planet Earth are not true humans but only pseudo-humans.
In the pseudo-conditions of the pseudo-life, only pseudo-relations are
possible.
All these factors became part of the heredity and genes of the
pseudo-humans. In a compounded and cumulative manner, they were
and are being transmitted to all posterities and newly-born children.
Because of this arrangement, it was necessary to permit children to be
born by non-spiritual, physical, animalistic means which do not contain
anything of direct endowment from the Most High. In this connotation,
whatever level and degree of good, love, truth and wisdom, along with
their principles and derivatives, remained in pseudo-humans were
completely and totally contaminated, polluted, distorted and saturated
with non-spirituality. It is impossible to build true, genuine, spiritual
relationships and marriages on such contaminations, pollutions and
distortions.
3. The present condition of people on planet Earth is such that it
denotes an unusual, unnatural, pathological and artificially forced and
imposed mixture and co-existence of positive and negative states: good
and truth together with evil and falsities. Unfortunately, this condition is
considered by many to be a natural, normal and necessary state of affairs
which is a driving force of creativity and activity, and which motivates
people to be and to exist. This is a great fallacy fabricated in the Hells
and induced into people’s minds.
It is utterly impossible, in the spiritual sense, to conjoin good to evil,
good to falsity, or truth to evil, truth to falsity. Therefore, if true spiritual
marriages were to take place under such mixed conditions, the eternal
profanation of all spiritual principles would occur.
All true spiritual principles are manifested in concepts of masculinity
and femininity. All non-spiritual pseudo-principles are manifested in the
pseudo-concepts of distorted understandings of marriage, sexuality and
family life. The former are always based on freedom, independence,
tolerance, understanding, mutual sharing, mutual benefit and exchange.
The latter are always based on possessiveness, jealousy, taboos,
demands, restrictions, projections, false expectations, fears, exclusivity,
dictates, hate, manipulations, prescriptions, stereotypes, convenience,
selfishness and ulterior motivation. One cannot very well build a
genuine, spiritual relationship based on such a mixture of opposites.
A good analogy of such a situation can be found in the concepts of
matter and anti-matter. If one were to mix these two, a complete
annihilation through a spectacular explosion of both would occur.
Analogically, if true spiritual marriages were instituted under the
present conditions of people’s pseudo-spirituality and mixture, such an
explosion would take place that it would eternally annihilate all life in all
dimensions, levels and degrees of existence and being.
Hence, the Lord takes good care to protect that no true spiritual
marriages and bonds come to fruition on Earth so long as the present
conditions of non-spirituality and distorted spirituality exist.
Now, this does not mean that some people who are presently married
(pseudo-married) will not be spiritually married to each other in the
spiritual world. Many will be. But first they will have to undergo a
process of purification and cleansing from all contaminations they
acquired by virtue of the process of physical, non-spiritual birth, genetics,
heredity and other factors introduced by the pseudo-creators for the
purpose of destroying spirituality. No one at all can be truly married so
long as one chose to come to this world by the means imposed by the
pseudo-creators. Whoever comes to this world relinquishes the possibility
of being fully spiritual and truly married, and is thus necessarily
contaminated by the non-spirituality as fabricated by the
pseudo-creators. Under these conditions, no one knows what true
spiritual marriage is.
In order to enter a true spiritual marriage, one must first be
decontaminated. Decontamination is impossible to achieve here on Earth
under the present existing conditions, characterized by the rule of the
negative state. Therefore, such a decontamination is possible only in the
spiritual world.
4. Swedenborg correctly defined spiritual marriage as a conjunction of
good and truth and love and wisdom. He also pointed out that marriage
symbolizes, in a higher sense, the marriage of Jesus Christ and the
Church. However, the concepts of good and truth, love and wisdom, and
the spiritual meaning of this great symbolism are completely
misunderstood and misinterpreted by people. Also, the application of
these meanings to actual physical marriages is completely distorted.
Conjunction of good and truth signifies unification of all spiritual
principles which are subsumed under the broader categories of
masculinity and femininity. These categories denote clusters of spiritual
states and processes which relate to principles of love and principles of
wisdom and all their derivatives summarily. There are infinite numbers
of such derivatives. For this reason, they never denote a relationship
between one physical male and one physical female. Inconsistency in
Swedenborg’s interpretation occurred when he took this broader meaning
of the principles and applied them narrowly to human couples and their
physical marital bonds. Because he was influenced by his time, customs
and modes (post-Dark Ages era), his interpretation of earthly physical
marital bonds is inconsistent with the true spiritual meaning of such a
marriage. Such an inconsistency was necessary under the conditions
which existed in Swedenborg’s time both on Earth (just coming out of the
Dark Ages) and in the spiritual world (just completing the Last
Judgment that happened in one area of the world of spirits). Mankind
was not yet ready to acquire the understanding and acceptance of the
deeper and higher meaning of spiritual marriage and human sexuality.
As far as the symbolism of the marriage of Jesus Christ and the
Church is concerned, people forget that the words “Jesus Christ”, in
themselves, from within, already denote complete, total and absolute
unification of all spiritual principles which are continuously in marriage
(the words “Jesus Christ” signify, among many other things, all
principles of femininity — “Jesus”, — and all principles of masculinity —
“Christ”). Each principle consists of infinite numbers of further principles
and their derivatives in both directions, which are all in marital union
with each other, thus making complete One God.
On the other hand, the Church is one body. However, that oneness
consists of numerous individual and unique bodies which comprise the
life of the Church from the Lord who is eternally unified and within
Himself/Herself eternally and absolutely married. If this were not the
case, no relationships between God and humans would be possible.
Since the Lord is in an Absolute State and an Absolute Process,
He/She can relate only in an absolute sense. But it is also true that it is
necessary to reciprocate this relationship on an equal basis — in an
absolute sense. However, the dilemma here is that no one can relate to
the Lord in an absolute sense because only the Lord is absolute.
Everyone else is in the relativity of one’s condition. We are all relative to
the Absolute Most High. The dilemma is resolved by the fact that the
Lord relates simultaneously to infinite numbers of sentient entities (of
which people of Earth are one stock), and every individual person relates
to the Lord by assuming spiritual identities of all others and
himself/herself in his/her unique and unrepeatable manner. Assumption
of such identities and self-identity is possible by the principles of mutual
sharing and mutual benefit. So, when one relates to the opposite sexual
characteristics of people, one relates to the Lord (who is present in that
one in an unrepeatable and unique manner — in one’s Inner Mind) in a
very special and unique way possible only through and by that one
specific person. This is what a true spiritual relationship signifies. Such
an understanding is lacking in people’s concepts. Therefore, they cannot
enter, under these conditions, into a true spiritual marriage.
5. The above principles constitute the principles of true love-making
and sexuality. Sexuality’s higher purpose, among other things, is at least
three-fold: first, to know one’s self better; second, to know others better;
and third, most importantly, to know the Lord better. Because of people’s
relativistic condition, knowledge of the Lord is available only through
knowledge of self and others. One of the best possible ways to acquire
such knowledge is by sharing oneself with others for this particular
spiritual purpose and mutual benefit. This is the motivating factor of
true spirituality. On the physical level, this principle is manifested by
sexual desires. Sexual intercourse, in its intimacy of sharing and mutual
benefit, is one of the best tools to acquire such knowledge.
However, under the present conditions on Earth, one is limited and
restricted by the negative state and social conventions, traditions,
customs and cultures to have such relationships only with one person —
husband/wife (pseudo-husband/pseudo-wife, or in some countries with
one’s wives), and only in the context of the so-called marital bonds,
primarily for one purpose only — procreation. All else, and especially the
true spiritual purpose, is disregarded, condemned, or at least looked
upon with suspicion. This attitude suffocates any possibility of acquiring
vitally important further knowledge about oneself, others and the Lord.
The consequences of such restrictions for people’s spiritual, mental,
emotional, intellectual, social, sexual and physical well-being are
devastating and destructive, as the history of pseudo-mankind
demonstrates so vividly. Such a situation eliminates any possibility of
establishing true spiritual marriages and proper sexual relationships.
This outcome was projected by the pseudo-creators into people’s lives so
that no true spirituality could take hold through sexuality and marital
bonds.
6. The concepts of adultery and monogamy are misunderstood by
people. Adultery is not defined and determined by engagement in sexual
intercourse with a sexual partner other than one’s own spouse. Such an
engagement may or may not be adulterous. True adultery is defined by
spiritual principles. Spiritual principles are determined by one’s intent in
having such a relationship. In this sense, if one marries someone for
selfish reasons — to misuse or to be misused, to manipulate or to be
manipulated, to possess or to be possessed, to hurt or to be hurt, to
depend upon or to be depended upon, etc., — one commits adultery with
one’s own so-called marital partner. Any ulterior motivation and
negative, selfish intention, if it hurts the other and/or oneself, may lead
to an adulterous stance regardless of whether it is within marriage,
outside of marriage, or while one is single.
If one approaches such a relationship with a good, positive intent, for
mutual benefit, to share and to be shared, to love and to be loved, to give
and to receive, to know and be known, etc., — for the purpose of
acquiring greater knowledge of oneself, others and the Lord in order to
be able to share, to give more, and in a better way, to be a better human
being, more useful and productive, one is acting spiritually and from the
true love of God. It would be a spiritual abomination to call such a
relationship and sexual intercourse adulterous or fornicative. But the
present type of people, under the brainwashings of religious doctrines
and social demands and traditions, do just that. Thus they play into the
hands of the pseudo-creators who purposefully distorted the true
spiritual concepts of marriage and sexuality.
Monogamy, on the other hand, signifies that good can be conjoined
only to its truth as love can be conjoined only to its wisdom, as wisdom
and truth can be conjoined only to their respective love and good.
Because there is an infinite variety of manifestations of principles of good
and truth, truth and good, love and wisdom, and wisdom and love, there
are infinite possibilities of conjunctions. Every specific element of good
and love has a corresponding precise specific element of truth and
wisdom and vice-versa. The true conjunction is possible only between
these two specific, precise corresponding elements. Such a conjunction
leads to their complete unification so that they become truly one
complete and perfect element. Conjunction with other elements, not in
precise corresponding position, does not and cannot lead to unification.
Therefore, spiritual marriages are always monogamous. No polygamous
relations in this connotation are spiritually feasible. However,
determination of which element of love is specific to the corresponding
element of wisdom, and vice-versa, is possible only under conditions of
total spirituality. Such conditions do not exist, at the present time, on
planet Earth. Therefore, no true spiritual marriages are possible here. In
this situation, the concepts of monogamy, polygamy, adultery, etc., are
superfluous because no one has the knowledge of true spiritual principles
which can be conjoined to each other. Only the Lord has such knowledge.
For that reason only the Lord can marry people.
7. Another error in people’s concept of marriage is that they
disregarded in such a relationship the principle of sharing and mutual
benefit. Although no true marriage is possible with any other elements
but only with one corresponding specific element, it does not mean that
there also is no sharing for mutual benefit and pleasure possible among
them. The opposite is true: the true spiritual principle states that once
such unification and oneness takes place, it is shared with all other
elements which are similarly unified or seeking unification in oneness.
How else could specificity of the unity of one particular conjunction,
which is so unique and unrepeatable, be transmitted to others; and how
else could everyone participate in such an important experience if it were
closed in a self-feeding loop and not available for sharing with all others?
To think to the contrary means to think non-spiritually and from Hell.
The pseudo-creators did everything to prevent people from the
discovery of this truth. They infused guilt, restrictions and taboos on
sexuality and marriages so that people were prevented from seeking
greater and greater knowledge of themselves, others and the Lord. Such
knowledge, of course, would lead people toward a greater true
spirituality. This was one thing the pseudo-creators did not want to
happen.
With such restrictions, taboos, guilts, limitations, projections,
expectations, dictates, atrocities, abominations and all other insanities
regarding marriage, sexuality and family life, it is not possible to
establish true spiritual marriages on Earth.
8. One of the major principles of spirituality is that everything in
creation is in the process of continuous change, update and modification.
(See message dated March 24, 1982.) In the everyday lives of people, this
principle is reflected in their need for variety. This need is one of the
motivating factors of spiritual progression and change. This need
originated from the fact that one cannot be in an absolute state and
process that comprises all possible changes from eternity to eternity.
Only the Most High is in the Absolute State and Process. In order to
survive, to progress and to be motivated to approximate to eternity such
an absolute condition, one needs a continuous variety of changes which
lead one to greater and greater knowledge of self, others and the Lord. If
one were limited in scope, possibilities, choices, expressions, impressions,
sharings, etc., to one or very few alternatives only, one could not
progress, one could not become more oneself, and one simply could not
survive. All creativity, productivity and usefulness would cease to be. In
such a situation, life would be dull, boring and meaningless. No joy and
pleasure of living could be derived from such a situation.
This principle of variety is reflected in the human sexual response.
The majority of people can be and are sexually attracted, aroused and
stimulated by more than one person of the opposite sex. They can be and
are aroused by many, and they have desires to have sexual intercourse
with many.
Now, this desire, in its original form, before the negative state took
over here, came from true spiritual principles as a reflection of the need
to know oneself, others, and the Lord better. After all, in making love to
someone unique, one, in a higher sense, makes love to the Lord, or to be
precise, to one of the Lord’s unique characteristics which are and can be
represented, expressed and shared only by and with that one particular
person who is the process, manifestation and extension of that specific,
unique characteristic. No one else can give one such an experience and
such a knowledge. By acquiring this experience and knowledge, one
makes further steps toward the better knowledge of oneself, others and
the Lord, and thus one becomes more complete, more integrated, more
individualized and a better human being.
In marital relationships which presently exist, such a sexual
experience, with such a purpose and intent, may and can enhance and
enrich each other’s sexuality and intensify a mutual desire for each
other, bringing a variety and excitement into their relationship and
giving them a sense of true sharing, mutual benefit and love without any
boredom, banality and one-sidedness, and without any jealousy,
possessiveness, paranoia and selfish exclusivity. With such an intent and
approach, presently existing marriages on Earth could be considerably
improved and become a source of happiness, creativity and birth of the
new, higher idea for everyone’s spiritual progression. They could
eventually lead toward the reestablishment of true spiritual marriages,
or at least prepare the way for them.
Such an outcome of sexuality and marriages was not acceptable to the
pseudo-creators because it led toward greater spirituality. The
pseudo-creators had no such intent. Therefore, they inculcated in their
pseudo-creativees pseudo-human feelings of guilt, possessiveness,
jealousy and many other similar atrocities and abominations (considered
by many to be spiritual and Godly — just the opposite of truth) that
completely destroyed the true meaning of sexuality, marriage and family
life on Earth.
9. The spiritual principles of masculinity and femininity, as
manifested in the concepts of Love and Wisdom, and Good and Truth, are
built and manifested on principles of complete and total equality,
freedom and independence. No preferences, dominion, subserviency
and/or exclusivity of one principle over another is possible or even
conceivable. In the true spiritual sense, there is no domination,
manipulation, dependency or slavery possible. Therefore, they are in all
respects equal. They are different in their manifestation but entirely
equal in their importance. No true conjunction, unification and oneness
can occur with them on any other principle but equality, freedom and
independence. True spiritual marriage is possible only on the basis of
this equality, freedom and independence of femininity and masculinity.
True unification can take place only on such a basis. Anything less leads
to destruction and hate; thus, it is evil and comes from Hell.
In the present non-spiritual condition on planet Earth, no such
equality of the sexes and of people in general exists. Therefore no
spiritual marriages can take hold here.
10. Finally, because present mankind is the result of the fabrication
and an experiment by the pseudo-creators, which was permitted by the
Lord so that the question of what it is like to be without spirituality or
with distorted spirituality could be answered, and its result could be
demonstrated and illustrated by a living example of people, it was
necessary to institute the state of ignorance and unconscious processes.
To be born into ignorance, with more than ninety percent of the mind at
the unconscious level, is to be born into no outward spirituality.
True spirituality requires full knowledge, full consciousness of all
processes, and no limitations and restrictions. Ignorance and unconscious
processes are limiting and restricting. Since all the knowledge people
acquire from birth stems from ignorance, they are fed, instead of true
knowledge, a myriad of distorted and falsified knowledges. Ignorance
produces and promotes educated ignorance.
In order to resume the dominion of true spirituality and its principles
in human life, it is necessary to return to the original spiritual methods
by ways and means of which people were coming into this world — into
full knowledge and complete consciousness. (See “Fundamentals of
Human Spirituality.”) Only in this way can the compounding and
accumulation of ignorance and evils, falsities and distortions (imposed
genetically and through heredity) be disrupted, and the New Spiritual
Age with a New Mankind can take hold on Earth. As long as people are
born by the old, animalistic ways, as fabricated by the pseudo-creators,
the hereditary and genetic transmission of evil and falsity will continue
in geometric progression. Thus, people will always be contaminated by
the negative tendencies and will rot in their desire to distort,
misconstrue, misguide and destroy more and more. Under such
conditions, no true spiritual marriages can exist on this planet, since
they are built on the fullness of knowledge, complete consciousness of all
processes of the human mind, in the state and process of freedom and
independence.
So long as people are contaminated by negative states, and live in
them, they cannot be in freedom and independence and in fullness of
knowledge and consciousness of all processes and levels of their minds.
Therefore, they cannot be truly married.
This is the end of today’s message.
Source: MESSAGE FROM WITHIN
